I don’t know about you – but I really REALLY like validation… with Borderline Personality Disorder it’s defiantly a symptom for me…

James 3:13-16 (NLT) If you are wise and understand God’s ways, prove it by living an honorable life, doing good works with the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you are bitterly jealous and there is selfish ambition in your heart, don’t cover up the truth with boasting and lying. For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.

Before my big mental collapse a few years back… I was self-seeking for validation – through my job – through my networking and volunteering – social media… I had a big hole inside that I was seeking to fill with anything I could – I had many hurts and scars that had festered and then – I couldn’t handle them anymore… not only physically, but mentally I collapsed…

Look back up at the scripture… such things are earthly, unspiritual and demonic (YES! demonic)… what?!?!? you think Satan has just crawled under a rock for the last 2000+ years?

I was jealous of what other people had… I had been that way since my childhood… I was ambitious – my volunteering was at a provincial AND national level before I crashed… I really really tried to find my acceptance away from GOD – and it so FAILED!!!

James 3:17-18 (NLT) But the WISDOM from above is first of all (1) pure. It is also (2) peace loving, (3) gentle at all times, and (4) willing to yield to others. (5) It is full of mercy and the (6) fruit of good deeds. It (7) shows no favoritism and is (8) always sincere. And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.

Those two verses of James describe what is the opposite of self-fulfilling – WISDOM… it lists 8 things…

Any validation is great… Getting noticed can be taken with genuine amount of humility… But a false humility isn’t correct…

Validation should really come from the peace, calmness and a sense of accomplishment from within where the Spirit of God resides…

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