Love Hugs

Christmas and Easter are my most cherished times of the year… 

Family get togethers…. 

Celebrating the polar opposites of love… One a birth, the other a death… Each a spectacular showing of God’s love far greater than we think is possible…

We know there are several types of love by the circumstances and audience… 

Holding a new born babe and whispering I love you is very different than from a wife walking out the door and hearing I love you from a husband behind the sports section of the newspaper…  And there really is a grandma love that happens when your child tells you they are expecting… And, I really can’t describe it…

The Bible tells us that God is love… He is perfect love… 

People with mental health issues are often love hogger’s… we don’t mean to be… And if we sometimes think we are a burden we probably will isolate and then it’s even more that love needs stays strong… For those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) we can revert to our “I hate you don’t leave me” way of dealing situations…

At our worst… People need to understand our entire world is out of kilter… We can be in a head space where we are honestly convinced the world would be better off without us… 

Maybe this analogy will help you understand where we might be… It’s like we are trying to drive a Mr. Bean Mini at a mud 4×4 competition… 

I owned this one for a few years…

We are stuck spinning our wheels in our Mini’s and trying to get out… Having support is crucial… trust me… We don’t want to be there… Getting out is monumental…

Love with mental health… it can be hard… Giving and receiving…

So many people are involved… First of all me… My hubby… My family…  Celebrate Recovery extended family, Church friends, co-workers, other friends…

Holidays can be really hard… especially for those of us who battle with mental health issues… Anxiety, depression and often unrealistic thoughts…

There are several elements which feed into the situation… First… How am I actually doing? Am I stable? Are there major stressors in play I need to pay attention to? How did it go last Christmas… Do I have a good support network of accountability partners? 

Do I know who where and when I can contact them… How? In person, calling, text msgs…

Do they understand me well enough to support me and cheer and pray for me or so the ARE YOU KIDDING route and kick my hinney keep it real kind of person… 

I have an illness… It’s invisible but yet often written all over my face… 

I didn’t get this because I sinned and God is severely punishing me… 

It’s not contagious… it is physical… My brain is actually shaped different and the chemistry doesn’t work correctly…

I need support and prayers not pity, certainly not judgement… 

Some people are great… those who come to look into my eyes with love and a wonderful real love hug… 

Other people are still stuck with stigma and maybe gossiping about why the wrath of God has come down upon me…

So, if you know someone who deals with mental health, make sure they’re feeling supported and not isolated by negative choice or circumstances… 

There can never be enough love hugs…

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